Simple Ways To Be A Role Model Everyday
Without Even Trying
Are there simple ways to be a role model without trying even on the most trying days? Can you be a role model every day no matter what? Have you ever thought that maybe you need to be a better role model for your child. Maybe it it’s of those days were everything just goes wrong. Maybe just maybe you are more frustrated, angry and impatient than you wish you are? Maybe it’s one of those days where you don’t seem to have enough hands, ears, eyes, minutes, hours, granola bars or even hugs to make the day go more smoothly. YOU CAN BE A ROLE MODEL EVERYDAY no matter what!
Everyday Role Models
One day Liam was asking me a series of similar questions that got me thinking about what it means to be a role model in the most simplest sense. Of course, we all think about being role models on a large scale. We model social interactions, we model values, we model compassion and we model, in general, all the good things we want for our children. What about the small things that make up daily living that are smallest children still need to learn?
Listening To To Your Children To See How You Can Be The Best Role Model
Sometimes it simple takes listening to your child to understand what he is picking up from you, as a role model. Liam asked me a bunch of questions like: Why do you shower EVERY day? Note, “every” was drawn out dramatically in all of the questions or statements. Why do you exercise everyday. Mom, you eat vegetables everyday. Mom, you drink so much water everyday. Why? why? and more why’s? I realized that actually practicing healthy habits for myself (and of course having him drink water and fruit and shower regularly) was in a huge way providing a positive role model for him everyday. I started wondering what other seemingly ordinary tasks do I do everyday that might make a bigger impact than I think!
10 Simple Ways To Be A Role Model Without Even Trying
Often times as a parent, we are giving so much that we forget to take a little for ourselves. We go un-showered, unfed, un-exercised, etc because we are caring for our children. Now what I am going to say next is going to shock you so be prepared. Children don’t have to be the center of your entire day. It’s important for them to learn this and to learn that everyone deserves the chance to care for themselves on a daily basis. As long as your child is safe from harm, you should be able to shower! Let them learn the importance of self care through your actions. Yes, I learned this the hard way.
Drink Lots Of Water
Role model through actions. Don’t drink soda if they only get water. Show them you think water is important too. Don’t just say it.
Choose Fruit and Vegetables for Snacks
Need a snack? Grab fresh fruit and veggies (maybe some nuts too). Watch your snacking and mindless eating habits in front of your children. In fact, don’t hoard it until they are asleep.
Take Time To Eat
Maybe not all your dinners can be family style, but that doesn’t mean you should have to go all day waiting for the chance to eat. Nourish your body. Your children should understand that mommy needs food for fuel too.
Schedule exercise when your children are actually awake! Have them join you or at least have to find ways to be busy while you fit in this important task. By choosing to fit exercise into a daily routine you are modeling wonderful health and wellness that is vital to everyone no matter the age. If you rather do it super early and by yourself, just find other ways to add extra movement with your kids into the day!
You have everything so scheduled, the day so filled, you forgot to take a shower. Make time to bathe. Cleanliness and the importance of cleanliness is important to pass on to your children. Remember Liam’s question about showering everyday. I don’t wait for him to go to sleep because at that time I am tired too. He can play by himself for 10 mins and when he was younger, he hung out in his bouncer.
Pick Up/Clean Up/Put Away
My house isn’t spotless. There are often crumbs on the floor, dust on most surfaces and a ring around the toilet, so I am not saying that you need to deep clean everyday. A simple, general clean up of loose items, mail, shoes, dishes, etc help a house feel a bit tidier. If you leave out clutter but ask your children to pick up every last thing, what does that say? One day your children will have a home and I am sure you hope it will have a small bit of order to it!
Spend Time Reading A Book Each Day
So maybe you don’t want to choose a book on rocket science because you probably won’t have the easiest time focusing, but read anyway. Show your children that reading is something you enjoy and something to make time for too.
Make Quiet Time Mandatory
Kids and adults (mommies) need quiet time too. Most small children should be still napping so make sure to keep a schedule and stick with it for adequate rest. Build it into the day. Provide quiet activities, rest time or whatever you think your children will enjoy playing quietly. They don’t have to be silent, but simple play like quiet boxes filled with puzzles, play dough, mazes and more will help slow things down
Talk To Your Partner, Spouse, Or Loved Ones Every Day
Let your children see you interacting with other adults in the household in a loving and caring way. Find out how everyone’s day was, what they did, where they went and how they felt. These simple conversations strengthen and build relationships that are important for children to see. It’s also a great way to teach about interrupting and practice patience.
Show And Share Your Emotions In A Helpful Way
Certainly you don’t want to fill your children with anxiety over your emotions and even more importantly your children should not be your psychiatrist. However, on a basic level, letting your children know that something made you sad, happy, frustrated, worried etc and explaining it to them is a good way to introduce how others feel about situations. Talk about how they feel about it too!